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Some thoughts on my anniversary [19 Dec 2009|04:00pm]
It was 1 year ago this evening that Alex and I had our first date. We watched Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf, one of my all time favorite movies. It is a fairly brash movie, but I think that there is a lot of dark humor to be had in the movie. Alex is the only person I have ever met who finds it as funny as I do. When we both kept laughing at the same parts, I knew right away that he was different.

1 year later and we are still together. I couldn't be happier. He has a quiet way about him which I have grown to love. He is a man of few words, but when he does choose to speak up, his observations are usually hysterical. He makes me laugh more than anyone I have ever met.

He is also one of the smartest people I know. He has a fierce curiosity about all things scientific. He likes to read things on wikipedia for hours on end, always learning and always exploring the world around him. He is working on his second degree. His determination and passion for learning helped inspire me to finally go back to school after years of procrastination. Without his help and guidance, I couldn't have done it.

In less than a year, I have gone back to school, made my first movie, and entered my first film festival. I am starting to guide myself in the direction that I have always wanted to go. Until this year, I never thought I knew how. I have Alex to thank.

I am a wild spirit, jumping from one thing to the next. Since we met he has always been there to encourage me and to give me balance. I am eternally grateful for his patience, his guidance and his constancy.

There aren't enough word to express how much I love this gorgeous, quiet, funny, nerdy, smart, sexy, silly, and wonderful man. He has changed my life.

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Another Year [03 Dec 2009|03:55pm]
So it has been almost a year since I last visited this journal. So much has changed. I met Alex, moved into our new apartment, and have started school. It feels like I am finally out of the rut that I had been stuck in since I moved to Kansas City. I have never been one to worry about the choices I make in life. I believe that everything that happens was meant to happen so I don't really regret those first years in KC but I am glad to be on a new path. Going to school feels long overdue so I am happy to finally be there.

I no longer wait tables at the club. I have taken my business full time. I have a contract cleaning the Kansas City Club, which I do 5 nights a week. It's a pretty great feeling to be your own boss. I work for 2-3 hours a night and make more than I did when I was working at the gallery. I feel more in control of my life and my time than ever before. It's a great feeling.

This fall, in addition to school, I committed myself to my first film project. I intend to have ready to show sometime in 2011. Its not that far away, but I think setting a deadline will help me finally achieve my dream of making one of my stories into a movie. I'm working on the script at the moment and want to have a first draft ready by the end of winter break. I have my work cut out for me.

I want to re-focus on the mission statement that I had initially written for this space in my first entry. I want it to be a place to reflect on life, and my film.

So let's try this again, and this time I'm going to make sure I don't stay away another year.

-Atrus


Here is a little taste of things to come....





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[11 Dec 2008|05:04pm]
 
 
Earlier today, I was fooling around on google maps. Using the street view function, you can literally walk around neighborhoods and move the camera 360 degrees as well as up and down using archival panoramic footage. I think that this could be a great way to virtually  "visit" places I have never been. All I need is an adress and presto. I think I may play around with it some more. Perhaps I would like to see Vancouver, or Florence? The world awaits. Today, I decided to visit the places that I grew up.

The home that I spent most of my life in was unchanged. My father's car was in the driveway in the picture, and the house looked much as it had when I lived there. There were a few minor changes that told me that the pictures had been taken more recently.  Staying in street-view mode I began to "walk" around my old neighborhood. Stoping to look at my old best friend's house, and the homes of people I knew. I had been a guest in so many of the neighborhood homes at one time or another growing up. I stopped at the park that I used to play in and walk my dog in. The entire experience of being virtually there was a bit unsettling. It brought back so many memories for me. It made me long for endless summers, and neighborhood-wide games of hide and seek. At the same time, I felt almost like I was doing something wrong. Knowing that all of these panoramas were taken sometime after I had moved away, I felt as if I were in a place and time that I did not belong. It was almost as though I had secretly traveled back to my old stomping grounds, but no one knew I was there- as if I were spying on my old neighborhood.  

After wandering around that area for a while, I decided to see what my boyhood home looked like.  As I clicked on the street view from the earliest house I remember, I discovered that 7360 Embassy Blvd was very changed. The house had been painted pink. The yard had turned almost to dirt. The entire place was in disrepair. There was a matress and some wooden furniture frames tossed against the driveway. As I panned around with the camera, I saw that the entire neighborhood had become a slum. I barely remember much about that neighborhood, but for some reason I felt like I had been hit with a ton of bricks. So much had changed in two decades. I felt like somehow my memories had been tarnished by seeing it in such an awfull state. 

-Atrus
 
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The First Snow [09 Dec 2008|11:32pm]
Head down all the way home
Coat pulled tight against the cold
Tiny footprints and single wheeled tracks
The bicycles and toys lay abandoned
Waiting to be rescued from the snow





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A Creed [10 Nov 2008|04:19pm]
There’s not a morning I begin without a thousand questions running through my mind.
That I don’t try to find the reason and the logic in the world that God designed.
The reason why a bird was given wings.
If not to fly and praise the sky with every song it sings.
What’s right or wrong, where I belong within the scheme of things...
And why have eyes that see and arms that reach unless you’re meant to know there’s something more?
If not to hunger for the meaning of it all, then tell me what a soul is for?
Why have the wings unless you’re meant to fly?
And tell me please, why have a mind if not to question why?
And tell me where- where is it written what it is I’m meant to be,
that I can’t dare to have the chance to pick the fruit of every tree.
Or have my share of every sweet-imagined possibility?
Just tell me where, where is it written?
Or if it's written anywhere? 


--from 'Yentl'
 
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The America That I Live In [05 Nov 2008|03:51pm]
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Election Day. Weeks of anxiety and uncertainty had turned into excitement mixed with steely assuredness. We were going to win this election. I worked at the polls all day, volunteering for the campaign. I witnessed the kinds of things that you would imagine hearing about on the local six o'clock news reel. A 94 year old woman had walked halfway across mid-town just to be able to cast her ballot. I rushed to her when I saw her coming up the street and offered my arm. After covering up my campaign t-shirt with a jacket, I helped her into the church to vote and called a taxi to take her back home so that she wouldn't have to brave the twenty blocks alone once more. “But I haven't any money,” she said. “Not to worry,” I replied. “Barack Obama is paying for the cab.” There, in the cold afternoon of election day, Mrs. Joanne Edge had changed my life. As I helped her into the cab, I realized that it was people like her that made this election truly remarkable. People both young and old came out in droves, many voting for the first time in their lives. I had never been actively involved or even interested in politics before, but this election was different. I found myself gripped with something that I had never experienced before. I felt like this was our time, my generation's time to get involved and to have a say in the leaders that we chose. As the day died down and the polls prepared to close, a familiar sense of nervousness crept back into my stomach. A man on one of the upper floors of an apartment building across the street cracked open his window. Election results had begun to come in from the east coast. “We've won Vermont!” he yelled down to us. We let out a loud cheer. At 7, when the polls closed, we packed it up and headed back to campaign headquarters. Groups of volunteers were huddled together watching the results on computer monitors. There was a general sense of exhaustion and excitement in the air. I didn't linger long. Most of the volunteers had been working for the campaign for over a year. I felt a little like the new kid in a group of old friends- out of the loop. I wandered across town to the Power and Light District. They had CNN on a huge screen in the amphitheater. People had gathered to watch. The temperature dropped as the sun went down, and not having a jacket, I decided to eventually head home. I ran the last leg of my trip at full speed. My neighborhood, like many this close to the city, was littered with signs. “Yes We Can.” I burst through the front door and turned on the TV. We had won Ohio. Victory was in the air. None of the networks had called it yet, but the deal was sealed. Barack Obama was going to win the election. I trudged up the stairs, took off my shoes and turned on the television in my bedroom. That's when I heard it. The west coast polls had closed. CNN announced that Barack Obama would be the 44th President of the United States. I stopped cold and sat down on my bed. We won. We really won. I couldn't even begin to comprehend what this meant. As I watched the sea of faces in Grant Park, I went through an entire spectrum of emotions. I felt shock, disbelief, awe. I was at once incredibly humbled and unbelievably ecstatic. I didn't know whether to scream out in joy or to break down and cry. By the end of the night, I had done both several times. I sobbed as I watched the now President-Elect Barack Obama walk out on stage to greet his supporters. I felt like my entire life had conspired to bring me to this day- to this one point in American history. I had hoped and believed in this man so fiercely and now, all of those hopes had been realized. I participated in an election for the first time in my life and had been a part of history. When I finally turned off the TV and crawled into bed, I didn't know if I would be able to sleep. I had had trouble sleeping in the weeks leading up to the election, but that night, I drifted off easily and slept well for the first time in months.

On Wednesday morning, I woke up to a new world. It was as if my entire life, I had been seeing the world through a veil and that veil had finally been lifted. It was a new day in America. People in general seemed to be in a really great mood for the first time in years. I found myself unable to stop smiling. In the street and on the bus, people smiled back at me. It was as if we were all acknowledging that something extraordinary had happened. The America that I live in is a confluence of everything that shaped me. I live in the inner city and work at once of the most exclusive restaurants in town. Everyday I see the cost of life in America. I see the people that sweep the streets, and the people that own the streets. I know how so many have suffered over the last eight years, and I am wise enough to understand that many of them will continue to suffer, even under a new President. People in my neighborhood will still have to struggle and fight to get by. They will still have to go to work and come home each and every day without proper health care, or proper wages. But I know, and I suspect that they know- they didn't vote because they expected a miracle or a handout. The hope that they hold onto isn't blind optimism. They hold onto hope, because for many, it is all they have.

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"What does it mean to regret, when you have no choice?..." [19 Dec 2007|01:24am]
Choices. We all have to make them every second of every day. Some are small, like what to eat for lunch, while others are far more complex and important. But what happens when you regret those choices? Psychology tells us that the brain has a built in mechanism deal with and neutralize regret- that no matter which path you chose, your psyche will tell you that you have chosen correctly. I find that in almost all instances, this is true for me. I do not regret any of the major choices I have made in life, but sometimes I wonder whether my choices will ever catch up with me. Will I one day look back and wish that I had acted differently? If I end up achieving what I want to in life, then the answer will be an unequivocal no. But what happens if I fall short, or even fail entirely? What will I regret then?

When I think in universal terms, I realize that in the end, it will not matter. I will die, having accomplished whatever I may on earth, and all that will be left is my memory. Eventually everyone who knew me will die too and then I will be nothing, not even a thought. When I think of it this way, I feel strangely comforted, almost as if I can do no wrong. If nothing matters in the end, then we have nothing to regret. On the other hand, if I am successful and achieve even a part of what I want to do in the world, then obviously I made the right choices.

The only thing left to ponder is whether the choices really make a difference. Maybe some people are just meant to do certain things. Destiny was always a notion that I found attractive. Our hearts want to cling to the idea that our fate is in someone or something else's hands, but our minds tend to tell us otherwise. One thing is for certain- if I am to look life in the face, with no regrets, then I need to take my fate into my own hands now. Regret is too high a price to pay in the end. Whether it matters or not, I want to make the right choices. What is right? I'm not sure at the moment. Ask me again in 30 years or so.
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"...but to disappear entirely- that is a rare gift." [12 Dec 2007|11:53pm]
Read an interesting article - http://www.slate.com/id/2179604/?y=1
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"Always the years between us..." [12 Dec 2007|05:42pm]
The thought occurred to me the other day that at some point in one's life, there must come a time where you give up or set aside the dreams and aspirations that you once had. When you decide that where you are at in life is OK. Obviously this doesn't happen with everyone, but in my observation, most people never end up achieving the things they wanted when they were young.

Knowing that I haven't given up on my goal of making movies, I began to wonder when this crucial point might come for me. Perhaps I have already started on the road to settling in life? Or have I?

I have always thought that running the art gallery would be a transitional thing, but what if it isn't? Could I really see myself in the same position in 5 years? In 10 years? I certainly hope not. But when I look at people like my boss at the gallery or people who work in the service industry, running retail stores and the like, I wonder when that moment was that they realized that "this is it". Surely some people went to business school or have degrees and intended to work in their field, but what about the people who end up managing the McDonalds at age 50? What were their dreams? How and why did they eventually relax into that niche in life?

A list of circumstances and theoretical burdens come to mind. Children, debts, losing a job, all of these can cause someone to put their dreams on hold. But in a country such as ours, where everyone has an equal chance to succeed, why do some rise to the top while others seem to falter? Even when background, race, gender, and upbringing are factored in, there still seems to be something out of skew. There are countless stories of actors or singers who started in poverty and rose to the top. Is it really just perseverance and hard work? Maybe the people who make it are simply the ones who never give up on their dreams, at whatever cost. Of course things are always more complex when you start digging deeper, but back to my original question- when and why do the rest of us seem to settle?

Talking to my boss one day after work, I posed just this question. He told me that it wasn't giving up on his dreams so much as it was altering them. As he got older and made choices about what he wanted to do with his life, his goals changed and perhaps grew less lofty.

Another co-worker when asked the same question said that at some point you resign yourself to the fact that you have not quite done what you set out to and once that happens, all that is left is to make peace with that- to value what you have achieved. Children, family, loved ones, work accomplishments- all of these things are achievements to be valued in themselves.

An online aquaintance had an interesting thought: some people never have a dream - they just fit into life somehow .

But will that be enough for me? I am 22 now and I still cling to the dreams that I had growing up. I want to be a filmmaker and a storyteller and I want to project my stories onto the world stage, if even in a small scale. Looking into the future, I realize that all I have to do is make an effort. I know that as long as I do that, I will have achieved my goal.
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"And then...to put it away." [12 Dec 2007|05:01pm]
At the end of Michael Cunningham's "The Hours", Virginia Woolf writes

"To look life in the face- always, to look life in the face. And to know it for what it is. At last, to know it. To love it for what it is. And then... to put it away."

In some small way I hope that this journal will help me to do just that. I intend for this to be a place to store my thoughts away, like a vast imaginary memmory box, full of dazzling things both shiny and worn.

With this innagural entry, I will use Woolf's words as a statement of intent. I want to explore and to document what I see of life. How do people come to terms with the course of their life? At 22? At 52? So much changes as we navigate our way through time both as individuals and as a species. Dreams are conjured and lost. Choices are made. Lives are altered. How does it all add up? What causes so many people to settle- to give up on their dreams? In this work, I will attempt to scratch the surface of the answers to my questions.

-Atrus
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